My name is Brittany and this is my adoption story.
I decided to place my son for adoption because I have three other children who I've been struggling to raise for the past four years. I couldn't bring another child into this world knowing I couldn't give him the whole world and then some.
I searched online for adoption agencies and I found a lot of them, but there was one that looked like the best option for me. They were so friendly and made me feel so comfortable talking to them, I just felt like I was at home. They helped me find the two most amazing people to adopt my son. They are family to me. They are not just another pair of adoptive parents.
My concerns during the process were mostly me never being able to see my son again. Also I was worried if my son was going to be a hundred percent safe. The things that eased my concerns about adoption were meeting Joe and Kim. They treated me and my three other children like family. They helped us through so many hard times and I appreciate it more and more everyday.
What I was looking for in a family was someone who couldn't have children because I knew they would love my son unconditionally and give him all their time and love. What made me choose Joe and Kim was their big loving family, their big hearts, and that I know they would love my son. I also knew they could give him things I couldn’t, and I'm appreciative of that. I've never made a better decision in my life then choosing Joe and Kim as my son's parents. Joe and Kim have been there through every rough patch and every good moment since day one. They never gave up on me and that's what matters most in my heart.
I chose an open adoption because I love my son so much, but I couldn't provide for him like I wanted and needed to. I still want to see my son grow up to be the amazing young man that I know he will be one day.
The day I found out I was pregnant I was about four weeks along. That very moment I knew what I had to do, and that was adoption. I wasn't prepared for another baby and I knew someone out there was waiting to have a complete family. This may sound wrong, but I tried so hard not to become attached to my baby with the fear I would change my mind. I did become even more attached after he was born, and honestly it killed me to see him leave, for he lives so far away from me. Deep down in my heart I know I did what’s best for baby Joey and I know Joe and Kim are the best for him.
Now that the adoption is complete I’m looking forward to finishing my GED and going to college. I have high hopes for myself and my children and I’m ready to start this journey. Adoption was the best thing for me at the time and I don't regret my decision. I can get my life together so one day me and my husband can continue our family when the time is right.
My advice to all the mothers out there considering adoption would be to think about the baby you're carrying. Ask yourself, can you provide a life of protection and a 24/7 commitment right now in your life? Can you give your baby everything and anything? Having a baby is not just about the money, but then again it is — are you financially stable? You have to think about if your child will have nothing to worry about. It's not about you, it's about that baby. Don't ever think that by choosing adoption you don't love your baby, because I love my son more than life itself, but I know in my heart and soul he is right where he is supposed to be!